You’re telling me that you’ll feel happier when you lose those extra kilograms.
If you found yourself nodding “ah yeeeeah” then you’re amongst the resounding majority of women I speak to every day.
My next question is always…
(Since you think that losing weight will make you happy…)
“Do you believe you deserve to be happy?”
And the answer is … silence.
Long pauses accompanied by tears.
Here’s the thing, darling. If you don’t believe that you deserve to be happy there will never be enough space for your slimmer self to show up.
If deep down you don’t believe you have the right to be happy you’ll find plenty of ways to sabotage your weight loss goals.
Rest assured, now and then, EVERYONE on the planet feels pangs of being ‘not quite good enough’. We all have thoughts of being ‘undeserving’ of happiness.
The key is to NOT entertain these thoughts.
Don’t resist them either.
Simply allow yourself to notice them and say, “Hmmm…isn’t that curious? or “I’m having that weird thought again…so what?” and redirect your attention.
When these thoughts of being undeserving pop up, allow them to simply pass over your mind like wind over water.
Let ’em go.
Not indulging in undeserving thoughts is a LEARNABLE skill and an ABSOLUTE MUST if you want to get to (and remain at) your happy weight.
Here’s the thing: you can either focus on your self-doubts and feelings of being undeserving OR you can focus on great health and your happy weight…As Is Your Birth Right.
I suggest the latter.
I encourage you to read the magical words below and notice how the residual feelings of being undeserving of health, happiness and attaining your happy weight melt away… into the land of illusion …from whence they came.
“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate.
Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.
It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us.
We ask ourselves, “Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?”
Actually, who are you not to be?
You are a child of God.
Your playing small does not serve the world.
There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you.
We are all meant to shine, as children do.
We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us.
It is not just in some of us; it’s in EVERYONE.
And as we let our own light shine … we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same.
As we are liberated from our own fear … our example automatically liberates others.”
These delightful words of deserving by Marianne Williamson, as cited in Nelson Mandela’s Inaugural Speech, 1994.
Sweetheart…YOU deserve to be slim, happy and healthy…starting right now.
Love etc, Avril