How often do you use the word ‘try’?

As in, “I’m trying to eat more healthy”, or I’m trying to shift some weight”?

I want you to take note of the word ‘try.’

You see, ‘try’ is a deceptive, tricky, insidious word.

When we use the word ‘try,’ we feel all virtuous and warm inside because well we’re on the way to achieving the thing we’re ‘trying’ to do.

But ….

….the message our unconscious mind receives is —” yeah, I’m kinda interested, but when push comes to shove, I’m probably not that serious.”

The word try provides us with an out.  Or an excuse for when we don’t do the thing we said we were going to do.

“Well… at least I tried!!!”

Think about it.

If you’re talking to a tradesperson, you need something done at your house, and you know instinctively whether their van will be in your driveway at the agreed time—just by listening to their language.

If they say, “Yeah, sure, I’ll try and be there on Thursday afternoon,” good luck, because it’s unlikely they’ll arrive.

When you chase them on Friday to find out what’s going on, there’ll be some litany of excuses and rationalisations or some such or another.

“I tried to be there but well…….”

Their integrity is intact.

Because, after all, they tried, didn’t they?!

However, if the tradesperson says, “I’ll be at your place Thursday 3pm,” you know, without a shadow of a doubt, intuitively— THEY WILL be at yours Thursday 3pm.

Hear the commitment in their language?


It’s a subtle but powerful distinction.

So, start to listen out for when you use the word ‘try’—whether it’s speaking to yourself, or with your partner, or your child.

Remember there is no such thing as trying.

You either do it, or you don’t.

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