How Clutter Blocks E.V.E.R.Y.T.H.I.N.G… from weight loss, cash flow and happ-y-ness.

She stared at me aghast.

“You want me to what?!” she cried.

“You know it’s time. You’ve been talking about it for weeks…you’re ready to deal with it.”

I’d met Lisa several months ago. Since then, she’d shed 15kgs.

To her credit, she’d nailed some unhelpful habits, and the step by step changes she’d created were rapidly gaining momentum.

Her home – and the hoarded mess housed within – was her next challenge.

I encouraged her to give away anything she no longer absolutely loved, with two rules of thumb:

  1. If you absolutely love it, keep it. If you don’t, the charity shop wins (and you give someone else the chance to love it).
  2. If in doubt, chuck it out.

Her homework was 15 minutes a day.

One drawer at a time.

Building momentum as she went.

Beware the excuses

Some of the excuses that came up included:

-         But I spent half my bonus on it and I might need it someday!
-         It was a gift from my favourite Gran…I’ve got to keep it, don’t I?
-         Sure, I never use it but it was such a bargain!

The Fat Me Clothes Box

Lisa’s de-cluttering almost de-railed when she came across her box of Fat Me clothes.

The box was bursting with elasticised-trousers, stretchy tops and baggy jumpers that she’d taken refuge under when she was heavier.

Because she’d dropped three dress-sizes, she no longer fitted these outfits. And with her increasing confidence, her tastes had changed – she’d begun to cherish tailored cuts.

“So, Lisa,” I asked. “For what purpose would you want to keep this box?”

She was embarrassed, but honest.

“Well, if I fail to keep the weight off, I might wish I had kept these clothes.”

Long pause.

“So, you’d be overweight and p*ssed off with yourself…but at least you’ll have those elastic-waisted tracky pants?”

Sharp intake of breath.

She laughed as the penny dropped.

In essence, what she was saying to her unconscious mind was “I believe so deeply in my own failure that I’m holding onto physical things that represent that possibility.

My unconscious mind knows that in box of fat clothes, there are items that prove I don’t believe in my own success.”

When I next saw her, she’d made the trip to the charity shop. She beamed.

“Saying goodbye to my Fat Box was terrifying, but liberating! It was like announcing to myself and the world, I AM DOING THIS.

She’d never backed herself in such a solid way before.

Clearly, there’s more to weight loss than tossing old outfits. But it’s vital to pay attention to message we’re unconsciously telling ourselves.

Hoarding and clutter is a symptom of something else – often a need to control. Deep down, we’re saying, “I don’t believe in myself” or “what if I can’t survive without it?”

It’s doubly-hard to lose weight (make money, be happy, whatever your goal is) if you’re sending those kinds of fear-based messages to your unconscious mind.

Now you, dear reader.

What are you telling your unconscious mind? What are you holding onto that no longer serves you? Is it time you had your own de-clutter session?

I propose we go one step further – are you ready to…

De-clutter your mind?

Cast off that nagging voice that says you’re not good enough… clear away those excuses that keep you stuck … purge any negative habits that prevent you being the healthiest and happiest version of you.

Clear out the nooks and crannies of your house and mind.

Pick one drawer to work on today.

Just one.

And let it go.

Uncluttered love, Avril

PS: If you’re tired of struggling with your weight or battling with that nagging voice in your head, hypnotherapy may just be the answer you’re looking for. Why not c’mon over and have a chat….

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INTERVIEW: ‘Spa it Girl, Australia’ + Moi Have a Chat

Permission to NOT diet: a celebration of ditching the “Sunday Night Conversation”, putting down the beating-up-stick and learning to nurture our miraculous bodies.

I had the pleasure of being interviewed by Yvette from Spa It Girl Australia, recently. The challenge was to squeeze as much non-diet weight loss goodness as humanly possible into a 15 minute space – I think we did great. We certainly had a blast.

Click on the picture below to view….

Some of the takeaways were:

  • How a common Sunday night conversation sets women up for weight loss failure (and a joyless week).
  • Letting go of the belief that deprivation is the optimum way to lose weight.
  • A very powerful technique you can use in ‘moments of overwhelm’ to immediately lead your stressed-out-self to a place of Zen.
  • PLUS: a useful nutritional tips that your Nana knew but we’ve forgotten in this fast-paced modern era.

Here’s the interview….Thank you Yvette, Spa It Girl, and thank you readers for watching.

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“Hello Lazy Bones”: The Happy Truth About Exercise. Or, Simple Steps To Losing It.

Exercise… and I say this sadly because I too have my lazy moments …. is a strictly do-it-yourself business.

If the very thought of getting pink-cheeked and sweaty is enough to make you feel exhausted, and retreat to the TV, you’re in good company.

A lot of good folk just aren’t that into exercise. And that’s OK.

Because here’s some wonderful news…

Step 7 in the Simple Steps to Permanent Weight Loss Series

You can still find your thinner sparkle, lose weight and look absolutely fabulous – without strenuous exercise.

Here’s how.

Researcher, Dr James Hill has discovered that the average daily number of steps taken by women is about 5,000 steps.

Intriguingly, his study shows that overweight women take 2,000 fewer steps per day than their happy-weight sisters.

Think about that for a moment.

Only 2,000 steps separates those who are overweight from their happy-weight counterparts.

Like to know the distance of 2,000 steps? Four city blocks!

Four city blocks stand between you and your happy weight. Incredible.

Just so we’re clear, Hill isn’t talking about extreme exercise here. He’s not talking about pavement-pounding, iron-pumping or sweat-inducing exercise….he’s talking about walking.

Good old-fashioned, one-foot-in-front-of-the-other: walking.

All you need to do is get yourself a pedometer (they’re about $10 from a sports shop). From the moment you wake up, attach it to your belt and discover how many steps you currently take in a typical day.

Aim to increase your steppage by 2,000 a week until you hit a comfortably, maintainable target. Hill’s study suggests 10,000 steps per day is a good ball park figure.

The beauty of walking is its accessibility as most of us have a pavement just outside our house.

It’s safe, simple and you can fit it around your lifestyle. Anytime, anywhere.

No fancy kit required

You don’t need a gym membership. No specialist Lycra kit required.

BTW: If you adore your spin classes or you love lifting iron…rock on with your bad self : ) This missive is for the non-exercisers amongst you. You know who you are….

I get there are personal trainers out there who argue that “you must exercise with continuous motion for one-hour to get fitness results”.

And once upon a time I’d have agreed with this traditional notion.

But I’ve also witnessed many a client who’s eased-up on sweaty gym sessions (that they hated but did because they ‘ought’ to) and have incorporated more walking, and have shifted pounds.

As a former regular marathoner, I have replaced my 100km weeks with small daily walks and have never been happier with the fit of my jeans.

Keep it simple

There’s no need to do all 10,000 steps in one walk. That can lead to all sorts of inventive ways to avoid getting out the door. We overwhelm ourselves and do nothing.

Instead, take a bunch of 15-minute walks throughout the day. It’ll feel good, and by nightfall, you’ll have achieved your 10,000 steps.

Take the stairs instead of the lift. Walk your dog. Park your car a block from your office and walk the difference. Disembark the train a stop early and take a stroll. Leave the car in the garage and walk the school run.

Move.
Dance.
Play.

You only have one body. It was designed to move. One foot after the other. It’ll thank you for it.

Love etc, Avril

PS: If you’re sitting there reading these words thinking, “I knooooooooooow I need to move my body, I just don’t do it!”, feel free to drop me a line. Hypnotherapy can help you do the doing that you know you need to be your happy weight.

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