How to STOP Overeating – A Conversation Changer

Stop OvereatingI’d love to be able to say, “I never overeat”.

But that would be a big, fat fib!

Because there are definitely times when I chomp through more food than my body needs.

But – compared to how I used to be – it’s a vast improvement.

There was a time when I’d overeat three meals a day – plus I’d graze, nibble and snack through the day and night – because food was my way of numbing my feelings.

I used to binge when I felt stressed (or chilled), when I felt socially-awkward, happy or sad….and every other emotional state in between.

Like many women, I’d overeat because I felt emotionally uncomfortable. I didn’t like feeling uncomfortable so I’d self-medicate with food. It was terrific at turning down the volume on the feelings, at least momentarily.

Immense pain

In my work with clients I hear immense pain associated with overeating.

“I eat until I hate myself. I am tired of feeling bad after every meal because I have stuffed myself again. It is like I love food too much and I cannot say no.”

The underlying theme is the desire for control. We feel that if we could just “take back control” then “I could lose the weight”.

But I want to let you in on a secret…

CONTROL IS NOT THE ANSWER TO LOSING WEIGHT

You see, diets are all about control. Foods are separated into groups: ‘good’, ‘naughty’ and ‘forbidden’. Points are counted. It’s a world of deprivation and punishment…..arrrrgh!

And, when we’re in a controlling relationship with food, there’s the inevitable flipside, that of being completely out-of-control.

Yoyo-ing between being “in control” and being “out of control” leaves us feeling frustrated and wondering,

“What the h*%# is wrong with me? I know what I should and shouldn’t be eating – why can’t I just do it?!!”

It’s the CONTROL part that is the big obstacle.

Control is an illusion that the diet industry spends millions convincing us is worth our time chasing. But it’s not.

My recommendation – from my own experience and from helping hundreds of women create a peaceful relationship with food – is to change the conversation.

In plain English: Instead of CONTROLLING your body, go for NOURISHING your body.

Nourishing your body means you honour your body’s own natural wisdom.

You listen carefully to how your body reacts to different foods – so that you can choose foods that invigorate you, versus depleting you.

Nourishing our body has a very, very different tone. A different energy. It even looks different.

It looks like…

  • Eating sloooooowly, putting your utensils down between mouthfuls and breathing, you know, actually tasting the flavours!
  • Being mindful while eating, as in, not driving your car, watching telly or updating facebook!
  • Getting enough sleep so your body can function at a high level.

It is only when we nourish our body that we are able to hear our body’s “I’m done eating” signal.

It’s only when we’re nourish our body that we treat our body with care and kindness…and we stop punishing ourselves with overeating.

If you’ve been in a controlling, depriving and painful relationship with your body, learning how to nourish it is a process.

It’s not something that changes overnight. But it can change.

If you’re struggling with overeating and you want things to change, let’s talk.

Love etc, Avril

PS: If you’re tired of the control vs out-of-control spiral, and you’re ready to be your happy shape and size – without deprivation or counting calores, why not let’s have a chat. I’m here to help.

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The Oscars: Are you being all “Hollywood” about weight loss?

So you have a goal.

You want to lose some weight. Maybe drop a dress size. Perhaps even wear a sleeve-less top without feeling self-conscious.

Maybe you want to be a more positive role model for your little girl.

Or, come off the meds.

Permanently. Forever. Once and for all.

So you work on it.

You stop doing certain things and you start doing some new things.

Add some time, some consistency and some repetition.

And voila!

You are moving towards your goal.

It works – yahoooooooooooooooo!

You’re changing, coming out of hiding, your new habits are beginning to feel ‘normal’.

You’re loving how your clothes feel (you’re going to have to start asking for it in a smaller size!)

But…then…

…..you stop doing what works.

Whaaaaaaaaaaaaaat?

Maybe you feel pressured with all the “wow, you look amazing” comments.
Maybe you feel vulnerable outside your comfort zone.
Maybe you feel discouraged at the lack of comments from others. (You’ve dropped three dress sizes and no-one’s said a thing!!!!)
And the biggie: Maybe you thought it’d “happen overnight”.

So now that you’re gathering momentum, you want to slow down.

Slack off.

Stop doing what works.

You give yourself a “wee break” which is code for “I’ll start next Monday” (month, year, before my holidays, after the cruise….).

Reality check: You need to keep doing what works.

Simply because – we get what we want in life by taking small, regular steps in the right direction.

Losing weight isn’t the immediate, massive leap of which we all dream. That ‘overnight’ success only happens in the movies. It’s make believe! Only in Hollywood does the star wake up with seemingly miraculous results.

Yet we are conditioned to look for those immediate results. And we all secretly hope to find it.

But it’s an utterly, hopeless illusion.

Because in real life, dropping a dress size is all about the small decisions you make, every day.

In the moment of each decision, it feels like they aren’t very meaningful.

And in each moment, you really don’t see a big, surprising result, either.

But when you keep doing the small stuff, you will wake up one day and you will have achieved what you want most.

Make peace with that encouraging fact.

Keep going lovely.

Love etc, Avril

PS: If you’re tired of the disappointment of ‘Hollywood thinking’ and are ready for something that works – permanently, forever, once and for all – weight loss hypnotherapy can help. Why not drop me a line over here.

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Happy Holidays: 5 Tips for a No-Weight-Gain Christmas

With breath-taking speed the holiday season is here!

This party season, I’m challenging myself to commit to five small changes to avoid the holiday weight gain trap.

I’d love you to join me.

These five simple changes can make a huge difference in how you experience the ‘silly season’ and set you up for a no-weight-gain holiday.

1. Stop giving yourself ‘permission’ to put on weight

There’s nothing like the extra stress of Christmas and plentiful festive treats to bring out our negative internal dialogue.

“I have zero willpower with Santa chocolate, I’m guaranteed to put on 5kgs over Chrissy.”

If you give yourself ‘permission’ to put on weight over the holiday – guess what? You will!

Instead, make a commitment to eat mindfully, slowly and enjoy every mouthful.

Once you make that commitment, nourishing decisions are easier.

2. Move your body every day

We all know this one…but I’m going to remind you anyway.

Our bodies were designed to move and being sedentary makes our metabolism sluggish.

Why not commit to 15 minutes of movement every day? Maybe it’s zumba, perhaps it’s playing tennis with your cousins or getting those lawns in tip top condition.

The key is to keep it simple – do not overcomplicate it.

Just get your body moving – even a 10-minute stroll does wonders for your body.

You’ll relieve stress, offset holiday weight gain, and get yourself in a terrific routine for 2015.

3. Make your first drink water

Upon arriving at a party, make your first drink water. I know it sounds a wee bit dull because the drinks table can be calling us.

But when you start your evening with a glass of water – you’ll delay getting tipsy and make smarter choices all evening.

I get it – it does sound a wee bit pedestrian!

But it works and your head and body will thank you in the morning when you wake up, hangover-less.

4. Get a good night sleep

Studies show if you get less than the recommended seven hours of sleep a night you’re more likely to experience increased appetite, cravings, and pleasure signals for high-calorie foods.

5. Express your gratitude

Even if you’re going through a tough time – maybe Santa didn’t deliver or perhaps money / time / nerves feel stretched. We all still have oooooodles for which to be grateful.

Gratitude fosters happy endorphins. So every evening, as you’re brushing your teeth, pause and reflect on “What touched my heart today?”

The more specific you can be, the more you’ll benefit from the heightened feeling of appreciation.

The festive season is a time of celebration, love and gifts. Why not use these five tips so that you can give yourself the greatest gift of all – that of health?

Wishing you all happy, healthy holidays!

Love etc, Avril

PS: If you’re tired of struggling with eating or exercise habits that keep you overweight and need a hand changing them so you can be the shape and size you want to be, drop me a line. Why not let 2015 be the year you create the body you love?

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