The Oscars: Are you being all “Hollywood” about weight loss?

So you have a goal.

You want to lose some weight. Maybe drop a dress size. Perhaps even wear a sleeve-less top without feeling self-conscious.

Maybe you want to be a more positive role model for your little girl.

Or, come off the meds.

Permanently. Forever. Once and for all.

So you work on it.

You stop doing certain things and you start doing some new things.

Add some time, some consistency and some repetition.

And voila!

You are moving towards your goal.

It works – yahoooooooooooooooo!

You’re changing, coming out of hiding, your new habits are beginning to feel ‘normal’.

You’re loving how your clothes feel (you’re going to have to start asking for it in a smaller size!)

But…then…

…..you stop doing what works.

Whaaaaaaaaaaaaaat?

Maybe you feel pressured with all the “wow, you look amazing” comments.
Maybe you feel vulnerable outside your comfort zone.
Maybe you feel discouraged at the lack of comments from others. (You’ve dropped three dress sizes and no-one’s said a thing!!!!)
And the biggie: Maybe you thought it’d “happen overnight”.

So now that you’re gathering momentum, you want to slow down.

Slack off.

Stop doing what works.

You give yourself a “wee break” which is code for “I’ll start next Monday” (month, year, before my holidays, after the cruise….).

Reality check: You need to keep doing what works.

Simply because – we get what we want in life by taking small, regular steps in the right direction.

Losing weight isn’t the immediate, massive leap of which we all dream. That ‘overnight’ success only happens in the movies. It’s make believe! Only in Hollywood does the star wake up with seemingly miraculous results.

Yet we are conditioned to look for those immediate results. And we all secretly hope to find it.

But it’s an utterly, hopeless illusion.

Because in real life, dropping a dress size is all about the small decisions you make, every day.

In the moment of each decision, it feels like they aren’t very meaningful.

And in each moment, you really don’t see a big, surprising result, either.

But when you keep doing the small stuff, you will wake up one day and you will have achieved what you want most.

Make peace with that encouraging fact.

Keep going lovely.

Love etc, Avril

PS: If you’re tired of the disappointment of ‘Hollywood thinking’ and are ready for something that works – permanently, forever, once and for all – weight loss hypnotherapy can help. Why not drop me a line over here.

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Happy Holidays: 5 Tips for a No-Weight-Gain Christmas

With breath-taking speed the holiday season is here!

This party season, I’m challenging myself to commit to five small changes to avoid the holiday weight gain trap.

I’d love you to join me.

These five simple changes can make a huge difference in how you experience the ‘silly season’ and set you up for a no-weight-gain holiday.

1. Stop giving yourself ‘permission’ to put on weight

There’s nothing like the extra stress of Christmas and plentiful festive treats to bring out our negative internal dialogue.

“I have zero willpower with Santa chocolate, I’m guaranteed to put on 5kgs over Chrissy.”

If you give yourself ‘permission’ to put on weight over the holiday – guess what? You will!

Instead, make a commitment to eat mindfully, slowly and enjoy every mouthful.

Once you make that commitment, nourishing decisions are easier.

2. Move your body every day

We all know this one…but I’m going to remind you anyway.

Our bodies were designed to move and being sedentary makes our metabolism sluggish.

Why not commit to 15 minutes of movement every day? Maybe it’s zumba, perhaps it’s playing tennis with your cousins or getting those lawns in tip top condition.

The key is to keep it simple – do not overcomplicate it.

Just get your body moving – even a 10-minute stroll does wonders for your body.

You’ll relieve stress, offset holiday weight gain, and get yourself in a terrific routine for 2015.

3. Make your first drink water

Upon arriving at a party, make your first drink water. I know it sounds a wee bit dull because the drinks table can be calling us.

But when you start your evening with a glass of water – you’ll delay getting tipsy and make smarter choices all evening.

I get it – it does sound a wee bit pedestrian!

But it works and your head and body will thank you in the morning when you wake up, hangover-less.

4. Get a good night sleep

Studies show if you get less than the recommended seven hours of sleep a night you’re more likely to experience increased appetite, cravings, and pleasure signals for high-calorie foods.

5. Express your gratitude

Even if you’re going through a tough time – maybe Santa didn’t deliver or perhaps money / time / nerves feel stretched. We all still have oooooodles for which to be grateful.

Gratitude fosters happy endorphins. So every evening, as you’re brushing your teeth, pause and reflect on “What touched my heart today?”

The more specific you can be, the more you’ll benefit from the heightened feeling of appreciation.

The festive season is a time of celebration, love and gifts. Why not use these five tips so that you can give yourself the greatest gift of all – that of health?

Wishing you all happy, healthy holidays!

Love etc, Avril

PS: If you’re tired of struggling with eating or exercise habits that keep you overweight and need a hand changing them so you can be the shape and size you want to be, drop me a line. Why not let 2015 be the year you create the body you love?

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How To Drop A Dress Size By Silencing Those Pesky Inner Critics

Nothing takes the spring out of our step more quickly than a critical comment made by the wrong person at the wrong time.

How ironic then that the meanest critic we encounter is the one living in our own heads!

Imagine this…

You’re strolling down the street and a stranger yells, “Hey you…ya fat, useless, undeserving lump of good-for-nothing…..” as they drive past.

You’d respond, right? Course you would – with something witty, big and clever.

Since you’re a classy gal, you might not respond out loud. But you’d certainly ‘talk back’ in your head.

So why-oh-why do we not talk back to the inner critic that yells in our own head?

Day after day, we crucify ourselves with nit-picking, de-motivating meanness – to which we do not respond!

We take it on the chin and keep walking.

But, like anyone who’s subjected to a barrage of criticism, we feel bruised and battered – which leads to comfort eating as a form of anaesthesia. Hello vending machine or that third helping of chocolate cake.

Well, don’t we?!

Speaking to you as a reformed comfort eater, it is absolutely vital that you start having a meaningful conversation with your inner critic.

If you don’t learn how to question the validity of its accusations, you’ll continue to hen-peck yourself with mean monologues.

And overeating and self-medicating with food will continue unabated.

Accusations of the inner critic

Our inner critics are conversationally limited. The usual topic is you and your apparent imperfections, like

– Unless you’re Size 6, you’re deeply, deeply flawed.
– If they knew the ‘real’ you, they’d leave you.
– You’re just not good enough, so bring on the lack of confidence.
– If you fail at something, it’s because YOU’RE a failure.

How’d you go?

If you nodded your head to all of the accusations (maybe even added a bunch of your own), you’re in good company.

It is a light-bulb moment for many women to realise that just because there’s a voice in your head –you don’t need to listen to it!

Or, as Cheri Huber points out:

“That voice in your head is not the voice of God. It just sounds like it is.”

You are NOT the conversation you have with yourself in your mind.

If you’re thinking, “What conversation? What is Avril talking about?”

That one!

So now you’ve identified it, here’s how you can mute your inner critic so you can get on with igniting your thinner sparkle.

Taming the inner critic

The next time your head fills with disapproving voices, simply say, “next, please”.  Just because there’s a voice in your head doesn’t mean you have to listen to its pontifications.

You’d wouldn’t bother listening to a track on a CD you don’t enjoy, so why listen to thoughts in your head that you don’t enjoy?

Some clients take a stronger approach to handling their inner critics.

“Sod off!!!” works particularly well.

Or, the stronger, “Foxtrot-Uniform-Charlie-Kilo Off” can also be yelled at persistent negative thoughts.

It’s YOUR head, you get to chose which tracks to play. Take ownership – chose the soundtrack to your day.

Find out what works for you. Get creative and discover the specific wording that moves you into a resourceful emotional space when your inner critic starts yapping.

STOP the self abuse + drop a dress size

It’s a curious aspect of human behaviour that we are willing to take more abuse from ourselves than we would ever accept from anyone else.

Over the next week pay particular attention to how you talk to yourself. As you notice the inner critic voice, take back your power by talking back.

Life is short.

And it’s also too darn long to live in a body at your unhappy weight or carry an inner voice that is critical.

So go on….have a chat with your inner critic and get your thinner sparkle on.

Love etc, Avril

PS: If you recognise that you have mean inner critic and you realise you need a helping hand to silence it, hypnotherapy can help. Why not drop me a line so you can ditch the inner critic and drop a dress size…..

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