Now that we are knee deep in holidays, chances are, you’re with your friends or family.

How’s that going for you?!

If we’re not careful, when we’re around friends and family we can start ’emotionally outsourcing’ which leads to emotional eating.

What do I mean by that?

What is emotional outsourcing?

If the kids would just stop bickering, I’d be less stressed and wouldn’t need to nibble on the crisps!!!

If Uncle Jon would stop being so sarcastic, I’d have a better time and I wouldn’t need to eat the Christmas chocolate!!!!

If my partner would help me in the kitchen, I’d feel more supported and I wouldn’t have to take comfort in the lollies!!!

You get the idea, right?!

Emotional outsourcing is when we need other people to behave in a certain way before we allow ourselves permission to feel good.

The truth is we have zero control over others.

Not Uncle Jon, not our kids, not our partner.

The only person we have control over is ourselves.

But by waiting for them to change their behaviour before we feel good is how we give away our power. We abdicate our responsibility to feel good right now as we give control to other people.

You probably know on an intuitive level how frustrating and ineffective it is to try and change other people.

The only person you can control is you.

So breathe deeply, come back to you, girlfriend. You’ve got this.

I get it – this does take practice – it goes against so much of the conditioning that we women receive – but you can do this.

And if you’d like help with your 2020 health goals – and to de-programme all that feminine conditioning that doesn’t support us in our journey – I’m here to support you. The doors to Lighten Up, my online weight loss programme for women, open next week.


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